Friends Are A Choice: Don’t Take Them For Granted… They Are Worth Their Weight In Gold

Friends for LIFE or until the end of times, even if it’s only in your heart.

Kris Bedenian
5 min readMar 11, 2021


Photo of author and best friend

My Story

“Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.”
— Misty Copeland

Friends will come and go, but your best friend for life is always there. Even if they only live on in your heart. A best friend doesn’t just talk… they show up. However, the pandemic has changed the way we can just show up! It has impacted the way we can support others.

My husband is also my best friend, but a marriage is completely different. My husband was at work the day I first visited my oncologist. This is the doctor who treats you with chemotherapy. The treatment for my breast cancer was intense.

The moment I heard the treatment plan, I would have normally been devastated. However, when I looked across the room at my mom and best friend, I felt a sense of comfort. Well, of course, I cried; but at that moment, I knew I was going to be okay. There is no love like your mother’s and your best friend’s. They both told me that I was going to be okay and that I was strong.

When my husband arrived home from work that day, I was sharing the news, and two cardinals flew up into a nearby tree while looking right at us. It was almost like a sign that I was going to be okay.

We agreed right then and there that we must do this one day at a time. Honestly, we all need to live this way. Living moment to moment is amazing. There is something about it that slows down time.

I can honestly say that without the support of my husband, kids, grandson, mom, best friend, other friends, family, co-workers, students, and their parents, I would have never made it. To all of you. I say, “Thank you and I love you.”

Three ways to nurture a friendship:

  • Talk and share
  • Give meaningful gifts
  • Send cards

Talk and Share

“Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”
— Oscar Wilde



Kris Bedenian

I’m a writer who has journaled for 25 years. My battle with breast cancer has given me a new perspective on life. Writing is a way for me to give back.